Saturday, October 13, 2012

Facebook Complicit with Bullying

Very recently, a young fifteen year old girl made a mistake.  She took a partially nude photo of herself, and this photo became public.

Soon, the photo spread.  Her whole school became aware of it, and the teasing was relentless.
She grew so depressed by the constant torment, she started cutting.
She posted a video on YouTube about her struggle - a brave attempt to set things right, and acknowledge her mistakes - but in the end the depression won, and yesterday, this girl took her own life.

I've blogged about teen suicides before because I understand as deeply as any person can, the pain these girls are feeling.

I'm living proof there is life after teen depression, but when you are in the midst of the deepest darkest hole, it's hard to see the faintest speck of light at the end of a very, very long tunnel.  You believe the speck is a figment of your imagination, and something people just tell you about in fairy tales.

This girl made mistakes, but the actions of her classmates and the in-action of the school administrators contributed to this girl's demise.

The best way to combat bullying, is to not stand alone.  And this girl, despite the help of those immediately around her, did not feel the support from the greater part of her community, and lost her battle with the darkness.

An article about this girl's story:

This is a sad loss.

Yet still, there are others, who celebrate it.

I came across a page today on Facebook, that showed a picture of the above mentioned girl, and stated that she deserved to die.

"A girl who takes nude photos and shows them her to boyfriend deserves the ridicule."
There were photos of girls hanging from rafters by a noose.  There was a photo of this specific girl with the caption, "She deserved to die," and there was a great much more which I was too disgusted to read.

Several writer friends of mine, as well as myself, posted a link to this hateful Facebook page, and reported it for improper content.

We then Tweeted, and posted, and begged, and reported, and eventually, rejoiced when Facebook took the page down.

I thought, "Finally!  Some decency in this world!  The good guys win."

And then, I got this exact email:


Thanks for your recent report of a potential violation on Facebook. After reviewing your report, we were not able to confirm that the specific page you reported violates Facebook's Statement of Rights and Responsibilities.

Learn more about what we do and don't allow by reviewing the Facebook Community Standards:


Give us feedback to let us know how we are doing:

Apparently, wishing somebody is dead, and then celebrating their suicide, is not in violation of the Statement of Rights and Responsibilities, because being a indecent human being without a soul and a shread of empathy isn't what Facebook considers wrong.

How about a violation to the human race?!?!

I am disgusted, outraged, thoroughly perplexed and at a total and complete loss.

I'm going to take that survey link and let Facebook know exactly how I feel about them, and I hope you do too.

Hate towards girls, or any suffering soul of the human race, deserves compassion, love, support, and help...NOT torment, shame, bullying, and in Facebook's case - utter and complete complicity.

You know what's worse than a bully?
The person who stands there, and watches the bullying, and does nothing.

Shame on you, Facebook.
Shame. On. You.